This is the how-to I wish I had when I set up my Prosody XMPP server. I have no idea why in tarnation no search engine would show it to me.
@thraeryn it's very good and clear, I keep forgetting to link to it from some of my resource pages. I'll try to get that done tonight and see if we can get it a bit more visible.
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